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The powers of regret and promise

Briefly

  • what is karma
  • what are the four results of one actions
  • what do we purify

How do we purify

The four powers

  • The power of regret

    • Clarifying the difference between guilt and regret.

    • In Joyful Path (power of regret) Venerable Geshe-la says:

    • We develop regret by remembering all the dangers of our negativity.

      this is practical but hard so need to approach this gently

    • The stronger our regret, the stronger our restraint.

      This is an insight for the importance of regret

  • The power of promise
    • exploring the act of promising - what helps us keep a promise, what may be the reasons we break promises

From the dictionary

guilt (ɡɪlt) n

  1. the fact or state of having done wrong or committed an offence
  2. (Law) responsibility for a criminal or moral offence deserving punishment or a penalty
  3. remorse or self-reproach caused by feeling that one is responsible for a wrong or offence
  4. archaic sin or crime

From chatGPT

Regret is about wishing something had been different — an event, a choice, or an outcome.

Guilt is about feeling responsible for harm — it carries a moral or ethical weight.

For example:

  • You might regret missing an opportunity to visit a friend before they moved away.
  • You might feel guilty if you promised to visit but didn’t, and your absence caused them pain.

Re-stated

  • Guilt is the emotional weight of feeling responsible for a moral wrong — “I have done harm.”
  • Regret is the emotional reflection of wishing one had acted differently — “I wish I had not done that.”

So guilt carries moral judgment — the sense of having violated a value or duty. Regret carries emotional sadness — a yearning for what might have been.

These kind of insights can help us understand why people do not like guilt. But if we think about it guilt is not necessarily as "negative" as most people feel it to be.

It might be that our capacity for taking responsibility for incorrect moral behaviors is manipulated by others to make us behave in a particular way. This is of course problematic and make cause a lot of resentment.

Practicle take away

Explore how can these two forces be practiced:

  • In meditation
  • During our daily activities
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